First snow has fallen! And I stinkin’ love it. Cold weather puts me in such a good mood. I feel like I can breathe better, the sun shines a little brighter and I can wear my pajamas under my giant coat and no one will ever know the difference. boo-ya! All is good in the world.
Below, I have a new paleo chicken chili recipe. It’s full of vegetables and some spicy goodnees. Enjoy it :)
I had a client ask me the other day about being “on-plan” and told me there’s no way she could be 100%, 100% of the time. I nodded. She continued… expressing how unrealistic it seemed and how overwhelming it was.
I get this question and frustration a lot. And I get it, it IS overwhelming. It was overwhelming for me, too. Truly, it’s a bit overwhelming for everyone. Between working, living, cleaning, raising children, being a good partner/mom/dad/daughter/son/etc. it seems like it’s just one more thing to add to your already crazy-busy life. And although it seems hard, it’s a no brainer that it’s extremely important and beneficial for our overall health. I start off by telling people to stop thinking longterm, stop thinking about how much time, resources, work it’s going to take you….really, the first step is to develop a new perspective.
I feel like our mind see following a plan (be it nutrition, fitness or other) like climbing a mountain (original, eh?). At the bottom, or start of the mountain, it seems like a huuuge undertaking and the goal seems so incredibly far away and almost unattainable. And before you even take your first step, you begin to doubt yourself and start to consider the risks and struggles. This is going to take a long time. What if I can’t do it? How do I even start? Am I prepared for this? …the list goes on.
Take a step back.
You wouldn’t be at the bottom of a mountain if there wasn’t something in you that wanted to do it. Right? You wouldn’t be there if you knew you weren’t prepared. Correct? You wouldn’t want to reach this goal if you knew you didn’t have the support of your family and friends? ….Catching my drift?
The same is said for following a plan – nutrition or fitness. You wouldn’t be at this crossroad if there wasn’t some part of you that wasn’t ready. You’re ready. You’re prepared. Deep down inside, something is telling you that it’s time to take the next step.
And so you do…
Much like your journey up the mountain, that first step feels pretty good. It’s easy. Your spirits are high and you feel committed and energized.
But perhaps your journey gets rough. Maybe you stumbled back, get sick, or you’re just plain ol’ tired and don’t feel like you want to stick it out. You want to turn back and head right back down the mountain (because com’on, declines are MUCH easier than the inclines).
That’s where your change of perspective needs to happen. When the goal is harder to see, the feelings are lack-luster and your motivation and commitment are dwindling.
So what do you do? You do four things…
- Take that step back again. Remember back to the start of your decision/journey and why you decided to do it. Recommit yourself. Take yourself back to the attitude you had on day one.
- Take one step forward (and I mean, one single step). Although it may be small and shallow and perhaps a bit shaky, take one, single step forward. By doing so at a moment of “I want to give up” you’re telling yourself, keep moving forward even if it’s not by much. Forward momentum creates action.
- Only think about that single step. Nothing else. Don’t think about how long it’s still going to take you to reach your goal, don’t think about how many more times you’re going to go through feeling like this, don’t even think about the third…fourth…or fifth step. Only think about this one. Take one step, one DAY at a time and focus only on that.
- Feel good about that one step or one day. Tell yourself you feel good, relish in how your body and mind feels after completing that one step. And stick that sweet, lovely memory in your back pocket for when you need to revisit those wonderful feelings. Because I assure you, you’re going to need them again. And this time, they’ll be easier to pull out, relive and say, “yes, i did feel great. I want that feeling again.”
By changing your perspective, you change your entire journey. Although nutrition and fitness are very outwardly-focused goals, motivations and attitudes start in your mind. If you can get your mind right and be ok with knowing you’re going to probably take a few steps back on your wellness journey, but ultimately know that you’re going to take many more steps forward (maybe even some leaps and bounds) – that’s where you need to be. Your perspective needs to be fluid and understanding but ultimately supporting your goal and creating the attitude and mindset that’ll get you there.
To help that perspective…
- Write things down
- Share your feelings – positive and negative with someone who supports you
- Reach out via social media – people want to help!
- Vocally encourage yourself
- Start each day (or end each night) with a recommitment to yourself and your goals
- Be thankful and grateful for yourself. Your body and mind do amazing things. Give credit to the power you hold and the accomplishments you’ve already achieved. You’re your own best cheerleader.
Keep it in perspective.
Leave me some comments on your goals and perspective if ya’ wish. I’d be thrilled to see them! -XO.
Now for the yum-stuff: Paleo Chicken Chili – slow cooker recipe:
- Ground chicken
- 1 can diced tomatoes
- 1 can black beans
- 1 package mushrooms, diced
- 2 large carrots, diced
- 1 cup chopped kale
- 1 medium yellow onion, diced
- 2 tbs chili powder
- 1 tbs cumin
- 1 tsp cayenne pepper (more or less depending on your desired spiciness)
- 1/2 tsp nutmeg
- 1/2 tbs oregano
- 1 tsp him. sea salt
- 1/2 cup water
- Throw it all in a good ole' crock pot.
- Cooking times vary: Cook on low (8-10 hours), high (4-6 hours)
- Garnish with some chopped avocado, green onions and plate with some plantains.
- *omit black beans if following paleo